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StayPuft · 08-12-2013, 11:55 PM

(08-11-2013 05:38 PM)MoonSylver Wrote: I know the feeling. Spent literally the best years of my life married to someone who threw me away like garbage when she used me up & was done with me. I, too, wonder "what if". My chances aren't good at my age now, with nothing to offer someone else, so I can't help but wonder what might have been. But, done is done, so it doesn't matter.

From my experience, you'll go through phases of ready/not ready to move on. For me, I bounced back & forth from longing for/thinking about it, to no way/no thanks.

Whatever you decided on, good luck & don't rush into anything. Relax & try to enjoy what you can out of life.

Me, I finally decided that at this stage of life, with all my circumstances, it's really unlikely that I'll be meeting anyone else, so I've accepted the fact, quit worrying about it, & am just trying to find what enjoyment I can in life.

I hear you, bro. So sorry about what happened to you. I remember you talking about your situation earlier. I definitely know how you feel. The only difference is that, in my case, I am so extremely glad to be ending this relationship. At the time, it was hard to determine why the heck I was still holding on, and now that I am out of the relationship, I honestly can see that there was basically no value in it for me. It was pretty much 100% take, take, take from her and I only got treated like crap for it in return. I mean, granted no situation is black and white. There were good times, and I was not 100% free of blame either. But, the fact is that I should have gotten out of this relationship a long time ago.

I certainly hope the best for you. If it is what you want, then I hope you find out you were wrong. I hope you find your true soulmate. If you really feel you are happier without, then I hope you the best in that endeavor. I myself do still want to find that special someone. It has always been a big part of who I am. I am a hopeless romantic, no matter how much I may want to or try to turn it off, I can't help but be who I am. But, I still can't help but think I missed her. Part of me feels like she was out there waiting for me, maybe right under my nose, but this crappy relationship I was in made me miss her. But, life's a b*tch and then you die. Seems the secret of life is just learning your way to be happy despite all the crap that gets heaped upon you.